I’ve come to the conclusion that at some point in our lives, we’re waiting for some kind of recognition from someone, somewhere to take notice of us.
So we sit patiently waiting sometimes 25-35-45 years in anticipation, hope and maybe for some of us we pray, that someone will recognize our genius and accept us for who we are and not focus on who we aren’t.
Life is so much more than just something to do. Life is about experiences and some of those experiences leave us void of all hope for ourselves. The smart or ambitious people are always someone else, and never us. Will we ever feel good or smart enough or simply be enough, not for others but for ourselves? It takes great courage to not curl in ourselves while waiting for someone to see us and acknowledge us for who we are.
When we’re young we never sit, wait and if we anticipate it’s always for endless possibilities. We don’t hope because we simply know and we don’t pray because we know that we’re pure genius. One fine day we’re told that the fire burning full force in us, is inappropriate and that it bothers others. We’re not only taught to obliterate our bursting flame of energy. We’re taught that it’s not good and that we won’t be liked or accepted by others for showing it. Therefore, we learn quite early to quench our fire.
We start early knowing that we must seek ‘approval’ to be accepted by others. We have a knowing that by simply looking at an adult (whether it be parents, relatives, teachers or any authoritative figure) that what we’re doing isn’t approved of, so we quickly stop . I wonder at what age it is that we discover that ‘being’ isn’t a good thing? Irrelevant of the age, we stop ‘being’ and start ‘doing’ what is appropriate in someone else’ eyes. Soon enough as adults we see that it’s a long and lonely road and not to mention, ‘thankless or fruitless.’
From a very young age, through our journey to adulthood, the fire which we had burning so freely within us (that we learned to suppress), is still smoldering.
One day we awake and we’ve grown tired, impatient, bitchy and we’re done. We wake up totally agitated one morning and we have no idea why we feel that way. We feel contempt towards everyone around us and yet it’s not ‘everyone’ that we feel contempt for. It’s ourselves. We start to reflect on our lives noticing that we’re not the person that we were. At a young age we were unwilling to not dream knowing in our body’s that everything was possible for us. Where is the person that once was and what will it take for us to reclaim that which we allowed to be smothered?
I believe that for some of us, we need someone to be the first to create a path. Once we’ve bared witness to what is possible, we set out to carve out our own path. As we journey down the path that was created by the first woman, we start to see the genius within ourselves by allowing someone to go ahead of us. It now seem effortless because it is now carved not only by the first woman but by you as well. Then comes another woman seemingly following in the same foot steps however the first person’s foot prints are less visible. As we continue our journey we recognize that the genius of it all is that we are all reflections of each other. So as much as some one went first, them being an aspect of our consciousness, it’s as though a part of us went along for the journey.
Don’t beat yourself up because someone did it before you. Marvel in who you are and marvel in who they are and that they had the willingness to go first because in that time and space it was right for them. Possibly in this time and space it is right for you. It really doesn’t matter who went first as much as it matters that you be first in your life to carve your path.
There is always a journey and being that life isn’t static there is always movement and flow. Instead of thinking of who went fist, possibly consider that we are all part of a continuum and are merely at different points and are constantly changing and evolving. Know that as you recognize the genius in another, that they are an aspect of your consciousness. Meaning, you cannot see the genius in another unless you already know it to be truth in your body. Maybe in this moment you cannot see the genius of who you are but being able to recognize it in another is a great place to start.
It has been three years ago now that I went to a book unveiling. I marveled at some of the bravest and most powerful women that I had ever witnessed. Today I find myself amongst those women and I am no different than they are. Three years ago I didn’t think that. Today I know it to be fact. Louise LeBrun, the creator of the WEL-Systems Institute and the body of knowledge which she created, was the woman who I could see had carved out a path for me. It became effortless as I discovered the more that I am. Now as I move forward, I am the one who is carving out a path for myself and others. The women who start down this path will be the ones to carve it out for someone else.
We’re all at different points of the continuum and all that it takes for you to move forward is your willingness to follow the impulses of your body.
Don’t look to the past. Don’t worry about who went before you. Pay attention to whether you’re moving forward or if you have a foot stuck in the past.
Marvel in who you are. Don’t wait to be invited, invite yourself. Don’t wait for someone to recognize you for who you are, rather make yourself known to others. Allow yourself to stand out in a crowd. Know that you are responsible for moving forward. Someone can point you in a direction and it’s up to you to see for yourself if it feels right for you or not.
I suggest that you stop making up stories as to why you can’t, and consider why you can. Don’t worry about what you aren’t, marvel in who you are. Don’t worry about the past as much as embrace it and know that what didn’t work you don’t have to repeat. ‘You,’ being key.
Always consider what is possible and simply move into it. If you move away, you surely won’t get what you’re looking for.
Creating Space for others to Consider their lives differently.
Amy