How far are you willing to go…

And how many trips are you willing to take in hopes that your life will change?  Over the past couple of years it has become very clear to me that people are willing to do whatever it takes to get their life back.  Or are they?

I’ve heard people say, “We’re going away so that we can rekindle the flame that we once had.”  Or, “I’m taking a trip and going away alone to find myself.”

I find it quite interesting that we leave the space/location that we refer to as home, so that we can find who it is we truly are.  Or is it an opportunity to get away from your life for a few days hoping that while you’re away you may forget that the partner that you went away with or away from, is still the same person when you get back?  Oh yes, and let us not forget that you’re still the same person as well.

What we become frustrated about or the very things that annoy us, are this the very same things that have the same reaction in our body even after taking a trip away.  And yet we believe that a trip away will make things all better.

So how far are you willing to go? I’d say not far enough.

If you want to change your life, stop and ask yourself a few questions.

Are you willing to get honest with yourself?  (I mean really honest).

How willing are you to take a breath and say, “I’m done” and this time actually mean it.  And when I say that, I don’t mean the notion of being done.  I mean when you’re finally pushed back against the wall and you have had your fill.  I’m talking about the ‘being done in the body,’ done.

The sad part is that we’re willing to sacrifice not only ourselves, but our children as well.  “I’m waiting until the children grow up to leave him.  It will be too hard on them if I leave now.”  Hmmm, does anyone stop to consider how hard it is on the children staying in and being part of the unhappy marriage?

Recently I was watching a show and the little boy (about seven) had swallowed some marbles.  The parents rushed to the emergency with him and he ended up in the hospital for a few days under observation.  During his time in the hospital, the parents would ‘causally’ be arguing in front of him and saying things under their breath as though he wasn’t there.  They had both ‘promised’ him that once he was ready to go home and would promise not to swallow any more marbles, that they would give him anything that he wanted.  When it was time to leave the hospital and the doctors signed the release, he asked his parents if their deal that they made still was for real?  “Yes, of course.  You can have anything you want.” – “Good.  Get a divorce.  I’m tired of you two fighting all the time.”

Although this was a show, was it really?  I hear things from other parents and from children and I am amazed at how willing we are to just let things be the way they are.  Always waiting for someone else to make the first step.  Why can’t we take the first step ourselves?

We need to start by getting honest with ourselves and asking ourselves bigger questions.  Taking our time for the answer to come from our bodies instead of the intellect.  When you think of the relationship that you’re in, do you feel like crying?  Does your lip curl up?  Do you stop to consider the environment that your children are being brought up in?  If not…Maybe it’s time.

Creating Space for others to consider their life differently

Amy