Last week I saw something which allowed me to remember that, Things aren’t always as they appear.
I noticed – what at first glance appeared to be a moth, trapped between two window panes and then at a second glance it looked like a butterfly. Hmmm, trapped between the inside pane and the outside one. I watched for a couple of days looking all around the window looking to see if there was any possibility that it could get out to free itself. I did notice a couple of spots where maybe it could get out but then again, a second glance made me realize that the poor thing would die because not only was it trapped, there was no oxygen between the panes.
I pondered over how often in our lives do things appear to be fine from the outside (our appearance) and yet on the inside, we’re dying because we can’t breathe? How often are we trapped between what we know is our truth and someone elses? Yet we try to keep up our appearances and wonder why no one is offering to help us when we’re trapped in our ‘pain.’ What if we chose to simply ask for what we need or want?
I believe that we’re all capable of doing many things on our own and for ourselves. However I also believe that sometimes if we just opened our mouths and asked for what we wanted, that not only would others be happy to help us out but we’d discover that we’re not alone in our wants and needs.
Keeping things up for appearence sake can not only be exhausting, it can kill you. Not necesarilly right away but keep in mind that if what you feel/sense on the inside of your body isn’t expressed to the outside world, it will manifest in the body as something. Indigestion, acid reflux and I could make a list however if something is going on in your body – know that it’s about you and consider asking yourself, “What is it that I need for myself in this very moment?” And here’s the thing, it’s not only about being honest with others it’s about being honest with yourself as well. I think that was the toughest one for me. I had no problem being honest with others, just myself. Hmmm, ‘just’ myself. 
That’s a big one.
I’m reminded again of the butterfly. How beautiful it was, and it still died looking beautiful.
If we find ourselves in situations where we can’t breath, maybe we need take a moment as ask ourselves a simple and easy question. “In this moment, what do I need in my life that would help me breath? What could I do to create a different reality for myself if the one that I’m in is no longer working?”
I honestly wonder how often to we actually stop and consider our needs and wants? If no one outside of you is asking you the question, who cares? What’s not to say you do something new and fun? Ask yourself. There is no one’s opinion outside of me that matters more than mine. Hmmmm, ego talking? Nope, I know that I’m looking out for my best interest because I’m the only one ‘in’ here where I live.
How often do we walk around ‘judging’ people by their outside appearences, without even considering that they may have something going on in their personal lives which is difficult? How often do we ourselves paint on the happy face so that no one can see our pain? What makes us or anyone esle any different? Appearences are just that. Appearences.
If you want to change your appearance, may I suggest that you consider checking in with your body to see what you really want or need instead of purchasing a new wardrobe?
Creating Space for you to consider your life differently.
Amy
