Comments for If you don't take a different path or cross a different bridge~you'll never know what awaits http://growingforward.wordpress.com Just another WordPress.com weblog Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:27:39 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Choosing me first by Growing Forward http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2008/06/11/choosing-me-first/#comment-188 Growing Forward Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:27:39 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=43#comment-188 Thanks for sharing your thoughts Dawn. I know that for myself starting to choose me first was quite interesting. Not only for me, rather for everyone around me. I believe one of the biggest things that has got me to where I am now is learning that what others think of me is none of my business. "What you think of me is none of my business." How freeing is that. Other people's opinions are based on their internal landscape of how they were brought up and taught what was good, bad, right and wrong. How could they way someone else be brought up have to do with me? :) I continue to enjoy you sharing your thoughts with me. If you're interested in exploring more, I encourage you to check out this link. http://groups.google.com/group/womengathering It's like an online journal for women who share their thoughts of what is moving through them. Since we're all reflections of each other, there's always something new to discover about ourselves. Happy reading my friend, Amy Thanks for sharing your thoughts Dawn. I know that for myself starting to choose me first was quite interesting. Not only for me, rather for everyone around me.

I believe one of the biggest things that has got me to where I am now is learning that what others think of me is none of my business. “What you think of me is none of my business.”

How freeing is that. Other people’s opinions are based on their internal landscape of how they were brought up and taught what was good, bad, right and wrong. How could they way someone else be brought up have to do with me? :)

I continue to enjoy you sharing your thoughts with me.

If you’re interested in exploring more, I encourage you to check out this link.
http://groups.google.com/group/womengathering

It’s like an online journal for women who share their thoughts of what is moving through them. Since we’re all reflections of each other, there’s always something new to discover about ourselves.

Happy reading my friend,
Amy

]]> Comment on Some of us will…and Some of us won’t by Dawn http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2009/08/21/some-of-us-will-and-some-of-us-wont/#comment-187 Dawn Wed, 04 Nov 2009 21:09:10 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=289#comment-187 Amen Sister!!! Amen Sister!!!

]]> Comment on Choosing me first by Dawn http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2008/06/11/choosing-me-first/#comment-186 Dawn Tue, 03 Nov 2009 21:19:10 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=43#comment-186 Amy, I was looking for some information on how to advise my friend to start putting herself first in her life. She does for others to the point that she has forgotten about herself. I discovered that in my own life, and have been choosing "me first" in my decisions. I am doing things because I want to or because someone else does? Am I biting my tongue because I should, or to not rock the boat? Am I sitting on the phone in silence, listening to someone being negative, discouraging, or just complaining, that if they were otherwise on the radio I WOULD TURN THEM OFF? All of the above was true. I have been conciously changing those behaviors, and the people in my daily life are surprised, intrigued, and a little annoyed. I on the other hand feel much better. I am not all the way there, but I see marked improvement. My biggest challenge is, now that I am not what I call the "rescurer" to everyone, no one else wants the job, or any part of it. Learning to say "no" has been a big help. I never said no to anything. I was spending my weekends doing everything I couldn't get done after work and before I went to bed during the week. The weekend was over and I didn't do anything that I wanted to do, much less anything for myself. Now, I have girls weekends, I have a room in my house that is just for me and whatever I want to do or not do is allowed. I have my own computer, tv and candy stash. LOL I am going to continue to check out the rest of your blog and hope reading about other people going through the same ah-ha's in their life, will help me with mine. Thanks! Dawn Amy,

I was looking for some information on how to advise my friend to start putting herself first in her life. She does for others to the point that she has forgotten about herself.

I discovered that in my own life, and have been choosing “me first” in my decisions. I am doing things because I want to or because someone else does? Am I biting my tongue because I should, or to not rock the boat? Am I sitting on the phone in silence, listening to someone being negative, discouraging, or just complaining, that if they were otherwise on the radio I WOULD TURN THEM OFF? All of the above was true. I have been conciously changing those behaviors, and the people in my daily life are surprised, intrigued, and a little annoyed.

I on the other hand feel much better. I am not all the way there, but I see marked improvement. My biggest challenge is, now that I am not what I call the “rescurer” to everyone, no one else wants the job, or any part of it.

Learning to say “no” has been a big help. I never said no to anything. I was spending my weekends doing everything I couldn’t get done after work and before I went to bed during the week. The weekend was over and I didn’t do anything that I wanted to do, much less anything for myself.

Now, I have girls weekends, I have a room in my house that is just for me and whatever I want to do or not do is allowed. I have my own computer, tv and candy stash. LOL

I am going to continue to check out the rest of your blog and hope reading about other people going through the same ah-ha’s in their life, will help me with mine.

Thanks!
Dawn

]]> Comment on About by Lisa Olivia http://growingforward.wordpress.com/about/#comment-182 Lisa Olivia Tue, 08 Sep 2009 02:56:04 +0000 #comment-182 I still have chills running up and down my arms after reading your 'About'. I don't know why -- of course, you thrill me, but I already knew that! I feel so, very proud of you as if I've always known you, and at the same time reading this I realize all the parts of you I don't know at all. And still I know who you are. Mahalo for being here, so fully and wonderfully you! :-) I still have chills running up and down my arms after reading your ‘About’. I don’t know why — of course, you thrill me, but I already knew that! I feel so, very proud of you as if I’ve always known you, and at the same time reading this I realize all the parts of you I don’t know at all. And still I know who you are. Mahalo for being here, so fully and wonderfully you! :-)

]]> Comment on Being Naked by Lisa Olivia http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2009/09/07/being-naked/#comment-181 Lisa Olivia Tue, 08 Sep 2009 02:32:57 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=322#comment-181 That was absolutely beautiful, YOU are beautiful! Your comfort, ease and thrill of experiencing that bareness, that openness and being free from layers shines through, and touches me when I'm in your presence. I am reminded now of how I carry a couple of heavy coats right now, over myself, of how every spring I dread, dread the unpeeling of physical layers of clothing and shoes and yet now, in the breath of early fall, I very slowly acknowledge the layers of shoes and clothing that become necessary, all to remind me of the total joy that comes when I'm decloaked. Mahalo, dear Amy. That was absolutely beautiful, YOU are beautiful! Your comfort, ease and thrill of experiencing that bareness, that openness and being free from layers shines through, and touches me when I’m in your presence. I am reminded now of how I carry a couple of heavy coats right now, over myself, of how every spring I dread, dread the unpeeling of physical layers of clothing and shoes and yet now, in the breath of early fall, I very slowly acknowledge the layers of shoes and clothing that become necessary, all to remind me of the total joy that comes when I’m decloaked. Mahalo, dear Amy.

]]> Comment on Being Naked by Naomi Irons http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2009/09/07/being-naked/#comment-180 Naomi Irons Mon, 07 Sep 2009 23:42:17 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=322#comment-180 I LOVE your nakedness my friend! You have been the invitation for me to keep shedding layers...thank you! I LOVE your nakedness my friend! You have been the invitation for me to keep shedding layers…thank you!

]]> Comment on Planting seeds – Embracing the Harvest by sandraheron http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2009/09/06/planting-seeds-embracing-the-harvest/#comment-179 sandraheron Mon, 07 Sep 2009 14:28:10 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=318#comment-179 Fucking fantastic Amy. Fucking fantastic Amy.

]]> Comment on No different than the butterfly and yet….. by marie smith http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2009/08/31/no-different-than-the-butterfly-and-yet/#comment-177 marie smith Tue, 01 Sep 2009 16:06:59 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=307#comment-177 Thanks Amy! This is so rich in meaning for me, what a joy to read your blog...and all your blogs! Marie :) Thanks Amy! This is so rich in meaning for me, what a joy to read your blog…and all your blogs! Marie :)

]]> Comment on No different than the butterfly and yet….. by Sheila Winter Wallace http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2009/08/31/no-different-than-the-butterfly-and-yet/#comment-176 Sheila Winter Wallace Tue, 01 Sep 2009 03:41:00 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=307#comment-176 Hi, Amy - great metaphor - and significant to the 4 life stages in numerology - relative to human life spans in physical space and time. And, that is another story... Now, Amy, on to what really triggered me as I was reading this wonderful blog entry of yours... 'metamorphosis' may be the process for transformation... and I think that I can coin a new word for human life as both individual and unique metaphor... that being 'metaphorsis' [short for 'metaphorphosis'... can you get your tongue around that one?!]. Then, if I make it active, as in 'living', it could be 'metaphorsing' [like 'metamorphing'. LOL! That in and of it self is a newly coined word! 'Morphing' - without 'meta' is the accepted one]. I love language... just so much fun! Metaphorsis Metaphorsing I think that we should start a new WEL-Systems® dictionary/thesaurus of linguistics for the 'New Species'! I am chuckling at the very thought of it... Louise's mnemonic of RIG [respect, integrity and generosity of spirit] is a great start. With huge rig for your magical metaphorsing, Amy. Hugs, S. Hi, Amy – great metaphor – and significant to the 4 life stages in numerology – relative to human life spans in physical space and time. And, that is another story…

Now, Amy, on to what really triggered me as I was reading this wonderful blog entry of yours… ‘metamorphosis’ may be the process for transformation… and I think that I can coin a new word for human life as both individual and unique metaphor… that being ‘metaphorsis’ [short for 'metaphorphosis'... can you get your tongue around that one?!]. Then, if I make it active, as in ‘living’, it could be ‘metaphorsing’ [like 'metamorphing'. LOL! That in and of it self is a newly coined word! 'Morphing' - without 'meta' is the accepted one].

I love language… just so much fun!

Metaphorsis
Metaphorsing

I think that we should start a new WEL-Systems® dictionary/thesaurus of linguistics for the ‘New Species’! I am chuckling at the very thought of it…

Louise’s mnemonic of RIG [respect, integrity and generosity of spirit] is a great start.

With huge rig for your magical metaphorsing, Amy.

Hugs,
S.

]]> Comment on No different than the butterfly and yet….. by Naomi Irons http://growingforward.wordpress.com/2009/08/31/no-different-than-the-butterfly-and-yet/#comment-175 Naomi Irons Tue, 01 Sep 2009 00:02:16 +0000 http://growingforward.wordpress.com/?p=307#comment-175 Life is a choice. To live fully and vibrantly is a choice as much as living a life in the past is a choice. The distinction for me now is, I KNOW the choice is mine. A year ago I thought my life was the sum of my past to be lived out through the rest of my days here. As my past has been processed by the device of my body I know my life is mine again and mine to choose authentically in the moment! Thanks for this metaphor Amy! Life is a choice. To live fully and vibrantly is a choice as much as living a life in the past is a choice. The distinction for me now is, I KNOW the choice is mine. A year ago I thought my life was the sum of my past to be lived out through the rest of my days here. As my past has been processed by the device of my body I know my life is mine again and mine to choose authentically in the moment!
Thanks for this metaphor Amy!

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